Tuesday, June 1, 2021

Not a great Memorial Day Weekend

So it’s obvious that despite trying my best to NOT get sick - even when wearing a mask - I still get sick. And it’s obvious that I’ve had a minimum of 2 sex partners recently…there is a third….my neighbor’s nephew - with whom I went to college with. 

I thought I was being careful when having sex with my neighbor, his nephew and my old FWB from a few years ago. All SEPARATELY and none of them knew. I trust my birth control but unfortunately with how often I’ve been on antibiotics…..the antibiotics negatively affected the effectiveness of the pill. I thought I was ok and actively took the emergency contraceptive pill but at one point, there was only a 10 day time frame that I wasn’t on antibiotics and thought I was safe and protected. I wasn’t. I had sex with 2 of the guys during the 10 days. My pill failed because of the damn antibiotics. 

Took a home pregnancy test and it was positive. I knew that at several of my local Planned Parenthood’s that there are people who I’ve worked with and a few that are somehow related to me (through marriage of a family member or a family member’s half sibling/cousin’s wife/husband, etc.) and I couldn’t go to any of the locations. I know that there’s HIPAA - the patient confidentiality thing - but sometimes people talk thinking that it’s ok because they’re talking to family/friends or don’t think about it because they’ve had too much to drink. 

Anyways. I went out of state to not only visit a friend but also go to a Planned Parenthood near her (thankfully it’s a very liberal state). I signed in giving my legal name and provided them with my insurance information. They said that they normally don’t accept out of state insurance but I explained that if they can’t, it’s fine because I can go on a payment plan and I’m at their location because at several of my local PP location, there’s my relatives - I don’t want their judgements and I don’t want to risk them letting it slip that I went in for an abortion. They completely understood and said that they’d do their best. 

I’ve had an abortion before - back in 2008 - as I was pregnant from my cheating ex. I knew the process and what to expect. I opted for the pill. They observed me for about 30 to 45 minutes to see how I was handling the medication. I was coherent and able to talk with the staff as they checked on me. They gave me another pill to take in 12 hours. As the one nurse was bringing me to the front desk, she said that I’d need to come back in a few weeks to get blood work done to see if the abortion was successful or I can take another at home pregnancy test in a few weeks, if there’s any problems I could call at any time. I thanked her. 

I went to pull out my wallet at the receptionist’s desk and provide payment but she said that she had just gotten off the phone with the insurance company. She said she explained the situation and even though my insurance doesn’t take care of emergencies, doctors or abortions in other states, they understood the delicacy of the situation and covered it this time (though my insurance company DOES charge my normal copay to get my medication in another state!). I just about hugged her but I didn’t (Covid and staying safe); I was appreciative that she worked her magic.  

I spend the rest of the weekend through this afternoon with my friend and her family. I know the abortion pills were a success as I was spotting and had a clotting discharge. I will continue to spot for the next couple of weeks  I can resume my birth control whenever I’m ready. I returned home a few hours ago. It was great to see my friend and her family, relax and take care of what I needed to with ZERO judgments from her and her husband (I was fine with her sharing with him). 

I’m normally a VERY careful person when it comes to having sex and being protected. The next time I’m sick and on an antibiotic, I will make sure whomever I’m having sex with uses a condom. If he doesn’t like it, he can see himself out. When I got home, I sent out a text to each man - individually - saying that I need a break from having sex with him for the time being although the times I had with them was great. They were fine with it as it was as casual for them as it was for me. 

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