I’m done with Vince and C

I’m done with both Vince and C. I love and respect Vince but I don’t appreciate that he’s trying to dictate who I do and do not see; I’m an adult - not too far from being 40 - and he’s trying to tell me to that I’m not “allowed” to visit with my former lover when it’s safer.

I miss C and the weird FWB relationship we had a few years back but I didn’t appreciate him ghosting me (and he finally apologized to me about it today).  I told I forgive him but I was I wasn’t bothered by it at all; I was beginning to getting tired of of him. Was the sex amazing? Heck yes! Did his “member” make me cry because it was gorgeous AND amazing? Yes....it was glorious. Best sex I had at that point in time? Yes.

The fact of the matter is, I can’t be the “other” woman for C or anyone else for that matter. I was the other woman for 3 years and it nearly destroyed a marriage. C is slightly different because of the girlfriend but I’d stay the other woman IF I continued to talk to him...he’d try to sweet talk me into having sex again. 

If he texts (or calls me) tomorrow, I’m just going to say: “C, thank you for the time we were together as FWBs. I had a good time and you had a good time. You have a girlfriend and I’m not interested in being involved - in anyway - in your relationship with her. You can choose spending time with girlfriend or you can choose to get yourself involved with me, destroy your relationship with her, have that relationship end because of me, then turn around to blame me and walk away; again. This is my decision; I choose to walk away. I’m not going to be your friend, I’m not going to talk to you while you’re in a serious relationship, I’m not going to be involved with you sexually while you’re in a relationship; if there is a time when we’re both single - at the same time - we can try to be FWBs again. Until then? I’m walking away until you can promise me and prove to me that you’re single. I have too much self respect for myself to be the “other” woman again. Best of luck in your relationship, enjoy it and I wish you well in you’re future endeavors!”

The rest of 2021 is going to be me focusing on me and not dating anyone (man or woman). I will continue to be friends with both my male and female friends but there will be NO romance.